Candace Aliké Smith — A Writer's Self Care Journal

“I’m going to make everything around me beautiful. That will be my life.”

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Category: Inspired Musings

  • The Tree Is Up! And She Is Everything

    The Tree Is Up! And She Is Everything

    For the first time in 6 years, I decorated a Christmas tree. I suppose the ice on my heart has finally melted. After years of allowing myself to get talked out of things that make me happy, I’ve returned to the Christmas tree tradition. I last hung decorations in San Diego for Christmas in 2016, […]

  • Pressing Play On Life At The Trains At NorthPark

    Pressing Play On Life At The Trains At NorthPark

    What Happens To A Dream Deferred? A YouTube video on Delayed Life Syndrome appeared in my recommended feed the other day. When I first saw the title —I’m finally beginning to LIVE— a flood of deferred dreams rushed through my thoughts. I remembered all the outfits I told myself I’d wear after losing weight and […]

  • It’s time to blow up the illusion.

    It’s time to blow up the illusion.

    Stories of transformation have always been deeply fascinating to me.  The rising phoenix. Butterflies. Even shows like Intervention, The Biggest Loser, Starting Over, and Hoarders. Witnessing complete chaos and destruction transform into order and restoration moves me in a way nothing else can.  I suppose that’s why blowing up my life has never intimidated me.  […]

  • Playing While I’m Waiting in Frisco, Texas

    Playing While I’m Waiting in Frisco, Texas

    Happy Tuesday, lovelies! One of the many things I’m grateful for is unlimited PTO.  I felt myself spiraling last week, so I took a few days off to re-center. The days were beginning to blur together, and it felt like I was on the outside of myself, watching my mind and body get tossed here […]

  • 7 Reasons I Smiled Over The Weekend

    7 Reasons I Smiled Over The Weekend

    Happy Monday! One of my goals for 2022 is to finally do something with the 20K+ pictures and videos I’ve taken of my travels, my finds, and my kid. Yes, I really do have 20,000 pictures and videos saved on my Flickr, awaiting their forever homes. Unfortunately for me, it doesn’t take much for a […]

  • If I Stay

    If I Stay

    There’s so much beauty here. Right here.  I’ve experienced the beauty of newness.  I’ve experienced the beauty of letting go.  I’ve experienced the beauty of detachment. I’ve experienced the beauty of surrender.  My bones know what it feels like to go.  I know what it means to run. I want to experience the beauty of watching a new thing wither.  […]

  • Purposefully Pausing at Historic Downtown McKinney

    Purposefully Pausing at Historic Downtown McKinney

    I hope you’re well. I had an interesting discussion with my mom today. We discussed purpose and passion and the pursuit of happiness — all topics that I think evoke way more stress than they should.  The chat came a day after I found myself spiraling. I was so close to running again. Weather, bugs, […]

  • Reframing Eve’s Transgression

    Reframing Eve’s Transgression

    I’m learning that lies sometimes hide in the way we tell the truth. Fun fact: I started therapy last week.  I’m not sure what I was expecting, or if I was expecting much of anything, but I was there and a therapist was there and I already feel like I don’t need to continue. But […]

  • Embracing Imperfection at Frisco Square

    Embracing Imperfection at Frisco Square

    On Saturday, Aevrie and I visited Frisco Square, a multi-generational, master-planned development home to 147 acres of office, retail, multi-family, and municipal space.  Exploring Frisco Square  Roughly 30 minutes from Dallas, Frisco Square is an extremely walkable area that gave me all the feels at the pace I love. Slow.  We walked past Cinemark Next […]

  • Who do you need when you come undone?

    Who do you need when you come undone?

    Happy Monday, lovelies! Today I’m grateful for music’s uncanny ability to keep me out of my own head. After finishing up my work for the day at a local coffee shop, I was seconds away from starting another cycle of overthinking and financial planning when Duran Duran’s “Come Undone” started playing. That word — undone […]

  • Radical acceptance is the cheat code.

    Radical acceptance is the cheat code.

    2/2/22 — how magical. We won’t see this sequence again until 2/2/2222. All the more reason to focus on the here and now.  Today I found the place that begins right after I end. I found the other side of my planning and maneuvering and negotiating and strategizing. I reached the very end of myself, […]

  • Mourning the Old Stories

    Mourning the Old Stories

    Things are dying in my world. Thoughts of past lovers.Belief systems. Patterns.Struggle. Chaos. Unrest.Old stories. Motivations. My posture of resistance has relaxed into one of ease. As I wait in expectation of an exciting new chapter, I must respect this very real season of mourning. Of the people, places and things that I can’t take […]