Guest Post by Cherise Young
Breaking the Silence: A Compassionate Look at Suicide Prevention
Two years after September was first deemed National Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, I led my first suicide prevention training. What I discovered was eye-opening: the concept of suicide as a preventable public health matter was foreign and even uncomfortable for many.
In every training, I’d encounter someone who had been touched by suicide – whether through a personal attempt, the loss of a loved one, or a professional experience. These encounters made one thing crystal clear: suicide is a deeply personal and complex issue.
Understanding the Landscape of Suicide
Experts agree that depression is the most common condition associated with completed suicide. The statistics are sobering:
- For every completed suicide, there are 25 suicide attempts
- In 2020, over 90% of those who died by suicide had a diagnosable mental illness
- Critically, these mental illnesses were often diagnosable but not treated
The Subtle Signs: Beyond Simple Sadness
Most of us experience periods of sadness or emptiness. These can last hours or months. Many can identify a reason and take action to find relief. But for some, negative emotions persist and transform into suicidal ideations.
Suicidal ideation isn’t always a direct path to suicide. It’s essentially thinking about death, often manifesting in statements like:
- “What’s the use?”
- “I’m so tired of feeling this way.”
- Wondering if experiencing joy is even possible
Breaking Down the Stigma
Unfortunately, a significant barrier to suicide prevention is the ongoing stigma surrounding mental health treatment. Cultural, religious, and social pressures can make seeking help feel shameful or weak.
Harmful statements like “Just get over it” or religious messages that oversimplify emotional pain can actually increase isolation and shame. These comments, though often well-intentioned, can be deeply damaging to someone struggling with mental health.
Prevention: More Than Just Stopping an Act
Prevention isn’t about blocking a single moment – it’s about creating a supportive environment. Think of it like child-proofing a home. We don’t just put up one gate; we create multiple layers of support and protection.
Key factors in suicide prevention include:
- Identifying internal factors (personal values against suicide)
- Recognizing external protective factors (desire to not hurt loved ones)
- Building and sustaining hope
- Offering non-judgmental support
Debunking Common Myths
Myth: Talking About Suicide Makes It More Likely
Reality: Discussing suicide does not plant the idea. Just like asking about chest pain doesn’t cause heart problems, open conversations can actually save lives.
Myth: Some People Will Die by Suicide No Matter What
Reality: Most suicides are linked to untreated mental illness. Providing a safe, supportive environment can make a critical difference.
Myth: Suicidal Gestures Are Just Attention-Seeking
Reality: Any suicidal behavior requires serious assessment. Previous attempts increase the risk of completed suicide.
What Can You Do?
- Listen Without Judgment: If someone shares their struggles, listen actively and compassionately.
- Take Signs Seriously: Don’t dismiss statements about feeling hopeless.
- Offer Support: Help them connect with professional resources.
- Stay Connected: Regular check-ins can make a significant difference.
Emergency Resources
If you or someone you know is struggling:
- Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: Call or Text 988
- Available 24/7, confidential, and free
A Final Word of Hope
Am I saying all suicides can be prevented? Realistically, no. But with education, compassion, and proactive support, we can create environments that nurture mental health and offer hope.
Remember: Your pain is valid. Your life matters. Help is available.
If you are experiencing feelings of sadness or emptiness, talk about it. If your loved one is struggling, listen, then act.
